One of my teachers had each one of us bring a clear plastic bag & a sack of potetoes,
For every person we resused to forgive for whatever they did,
We where told to choose a potato, write on it the name and date,and put it in plastic bag.
We were then told to carry this bag with us,
every where for two weeks,putting it beside our bed at night,
on the car seat when driving,next to our desk at work etc
The hasstle of lugging this around with us made
it clear what a weight we ware carring spiritually and emotionally and
how we had to not forget it and leave it in embarrassing places.
Naturally,the condition of potatoes deteriorated.
This was great metaphor for the price we pay for nursing our grudges.
Too ofen we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person while it clearly is for ourselves!
So the next time you decide you cant forgive someone, ask yourself, isnt your bag heavy enough?